Social Media + Sharing

Social media seems to be the new normal. You’re at a party, you take a group photo, you post it to social media. You’re on family vacation, eating ice cream cones in a beautiful location, you snap a pic and post it to social media. But, what if you’re one of those people…who doesn’t?
For every person that habitually posts photos and updates their life events on social media, there is a person who still prefers their privacy. Not everyone wants their lives and the lives of their families broadcast for all to see. And that should be respected, especially when it comes to their children.

In this day and age, you can’t just assume everyone feels the same way about social media. And no ones rules or opinions about it are “better” than the others. It’s just a preference. If posting pictures of you and your family makes you uncomfortable, it is up to you to let people- friends, family, and teachers- know that you don’t want them shared.

So, what happens when someone posts a photo of you or your child that you want removed from social media?

Common Sense Media has some great suggestions on how to handle this exact situation:

  • Simply, without judgment, ask the person who posted it to delete it, or crop it so your kid isn’t in the picture (easy to do with today’s image-editing tools). Say, “I’m not ready for this yet.”
  • Ask the poster not to tag the photo with names — and definitely not location. That will limit exposure.
  • Ask the poster what his or her privacy settings are. If their profile is private and not public, only their friends can view their images which limits the audience for your child’s photo.
  • If you’re OK with a photo but only want certain people to see it, ask the poster to enable settings that limit who can see the photo to a small circle.
  • Ask the poster to instead use a private photo-sharing site such as Picasa or Flickr that requires a log-in.
  • If you meet with resistance, explain that you’re worried about your kid’s privacy. Once a photo is online, anyone can share it.Project B3 knows that friends and family don’t usually have bad intentions when sharing photos of you and your children. They might just get excited and forget that not everyone is okay with sharing as much as they do. Or they have different privacy settings that you do. Whatever the case, open communication about these topics is always best. like we say in many of of posts- once a photo is online- anyone can grab it and share it!